We’re sold an idea of the “good mother” long before we become one.
If we love enough, give enough, and sacrifice enough, motherhood will feel fulfilling.
But for many women, trying to live up to that ideal is exactly what makes motherhood feel so hard.
If becoming a mother has been more draining, more isolating, or more challenging than you expected, this podcast episode is for you.
In this episode, I unpack the lie of the “good mother.”
I explore how unspoken expectations about who we should be quietly trap women in a version of motherhood that isn’t sustainable.
The truth is, the “good mother” is an impossible standard. She’s expected to hold the best parts of many different parenting styles at the same time—without limits, without rest, and without ever falling short.
I share my own experience of losing myself in the daily grind of mothering. What changed for me was letting go of the idea that motherhood is a role I have to get right, and setting a new goal I can move toward.
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s to be a good enough mother.
Because here’s the part we don’t talk about enough: children don’t need perfect parents. They benefit from imperfect ones.
When children see you make mistakes and then repair them, they learn how to do the same in their own relationships. They learn that disappointment is a natural feeling, not a failure, and that love isn’t conditional on getting everything right.
This episode isn’t about lowering the bar.
It’s about throwing out a standard that was never built for real women, and allowing yourself to choose a version of motherhood that works for you and your children. At the end of the day, so long as you’re both happy, that’s all that matters.
